We've been getting a lot of great questions about first-time sex at sexqs buzzfeed. The following pieces of advice are meant to apply to all cisgender and transgender individuals — regardless of your age, sexual orientation, or gender identity. That said, not every tip might apply to every person. Have more advice you'd like to share with the class? Go ahead and post it in the comments. Not to mention, the notion of "'virginity' is very heterocentric.
27 Things You Should Know Before You “Lose” Your Virginity
What is the right age to lose your virginity? - BBC News
Your first time having sex can be the subject of a lot of excitement, but it can also carry feelings of fear or anxiety. Mostly, though, it's hard to imagine what it will actually be like when it happens. For many of us, the only conception we have of our first time is what we see in the movies, but those portrayals don't very often get it right — especially when it comes to the first time. No, having sex won't change you. It might hurt, but it also might not. And it probably won't be the mind-blowing scenario you've seen play out on screen. While the experience is different for everyone, there are definitely a few things you should know before you jump in bed — namely what kind of birth control and STI prevention you plan to use, and that having or not having sex isn't shameful.
There is no one definition of virginity. Others may define virginity as never engaging in vaginal penetration with a penis, despite having had other types of sex, including oral stimulation and anal penetration. Some people may no longer call themselves a virgin after engaging in anal penetration or penetration with a finger or sex toy. Others may reconsider their virginity status after receiving or giving oral stimulation. Oh, the hymen — the stuff of legend.